Updated: Nov 4, 2019
If I had a penny for every time I was taught or instructed (or nudged) to find better and creative ways to love my spouse and children, I’d be rich. What I have always found to be discouraging is how very few people really came to the rescue when I needed tips on Self Love.
If we all truly think about it, there are sermons upon sermons about the virtuous woman. There are countless books about being a praying wife and mother. I even recall being counseled by a pastor when I got burnt out who said that I needed to be “100% woman. 100% mom and 100% wife”. It took everything I had trying to figure out how to be 300% every day. One day I realized that it was not possible. God made me to be 100% woman. He also reminded me in His Word that He gives me enough mercy for each 24 hour day.
So I began better utilizing my 24 hours and incorporating self care, I began writing my own personal vision and mission statement about a year after my mother died. I made a list of the things I no longer would do. Then I realized, I still had not made it clear what I WOULD do to better love ME. I had no time blocked off for myself. I had no hobbies anymore. I didn’t eat the foods I loved nor did I go to museums like I used to. Since that time, my list has evolved and here are a few things I refuse to ever part with:
1. Quiet time in prayer/meditation
2. Having money set aside for me
3. Sleeping well
4. Eating healthy
5. Exercising daily
6. Dating myself
8. Nurturing healthy relationships
9. Detoxing physically and emotionally on a consistent basis
10. Saying “No”
With this list, I’ve been able to center myself whenever I lose focus or get off balance. I encourage you to make a list and hold it dear. Be good to yourself because God only made one of you. Love her unconditionally ❤️